Painful sex – What causes it + how to fix it

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When my clients come to me experiencing painful sex, they often tell me they feel embarrassed and ashamed and like they can’t talk to anyone about it. I’m passionate about changing that. Challenges with sex or our genitals shouldn’t be treated any different to a challenge with any other part of our body. It’s biology – it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

Incredibly, painful sex effects up to 20% of us women at some point in our lives and, just to put that in perspective, that means it’s more common than asthma, cancer and heart disease!

It impacts our enjoyment of sex, can dramatically reduce our sexual desire and can place strain on our relationships – or lead women to avoid relationships completely.

If you are experiencing sexual pain at the moment you might be feeling: frustrated, guilty, confused, upset embarrassed or all of the above. It may be impacting your self confidence and even your daily functioning. So, I want to assure you that you’re not alone.

Painful sex doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. And it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship.

And, although what exactly is causing painful sex can often be difficult to diagnose, there is always a reason and usually treatments that can be found.  There are also caring, understanding and qualified professionals that can help you through the process.

In this podcast I’m talking about:

  • The names that you might have heard painful sex called and what exactly they all mean
  • The different types of pain that you may be experiencing
  • What causes sex to be painful?

And, of course

  • How we can treat it –  my recommendations for your diagnosis and treatment journey

Over the past 10 years, I’ve helped many through the process of diagnosing and treating sexual pain, giving them emotional support, helping them ease the burden on their relationship and re-introduce sex when the time is right.

While I hope you’ve found this episode helpful, it doesn’t replace a detailed consultation with a medical professional or therapist.

Below are links to several resources on painful sex and please I encourage you to reach out and get support from a professional. You really don’t need to go through this alone.

If you found this episode helpful, I’d love for you to head over to iTunes and leave me a rating for this podcast. It will help me reach other women who might need support or encouragement around sex, love and intimacy too.

Or if you’d like my help, book a 20 minute session with me to discuss how I can support you in overcoming sexual pain.

Thanks so much for listening beautiful. I’m sending you all my love, blessings and good luck to you in this journey.



Healing Sexual Pain by Dr Deborah Coady and Nancy Fish

When Sex Hurts


For high quality lubricants – Mojoco Australia

Pelvic Floor Dilators (to be used in conjunction with seeing a therapist or professional)


Australia – Women’s Health and Research Institute of Australia

United States – Dr Deborah Coady’s practice in New York

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