The Oral Sex Episode – Fellatio – what we love + how to feel comfortable with it

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I love giving oral sex to my lover.

There’s something deeply intimate and incredibly arousing about oral sex to me.

Giving oral sex is an almost guaranteed way for me to turn myself on… But more important than that, it also opens my heart. It feels like a gift I’m giving my partner. It requires trust and surrender, especially if I’m in the mood to take my lover deep. I need to trust that he’ll pay attention to me and not push too far. I need to feel like he’s connected to me and appreciating me. 

I know that not everyone shares my enthusiasm for it… It’s one of those contentious issues that shows up with couples I work with in therapy sometimes.

Believe me, I get it.

I understand how it isn’t everyone’s cup of tea.

In today’s podcast I’m talking to Roger from Curious Creatures about oral sex. We share:

  • Our likes and dislikes
  • How to talk about oral
  • How you can learn to feel more comfortable giving oral sex (if you want to)

Listen to the full episode here:

More about Roger:

Roger Butler is the driving force behind Curious Creatures.
Roger was brought up white, middle-class, mostly heterosexual, and male. In addition to that lineage, they now identifies as kinky, tantric, polyamorous, queer, and very, very curious. Their training is in Process Oriented Psychology and the facilitation of groups, coupled with an extensive education in sexuality.
Curious Creatures believes that sex is about delicious, hedonistic experience as well as being a path of self development and a contribution to a less violent world. They run workshops in a whole range of related topics in cities across Australia.
On their podcast Curious Conversations about Sex, Rog speaks on topics as broad as complex relationship dynamics, body image, gender issues, sex in long-term relationships, kinky sex, abuse and trauma, modern tantra, and sex work. To find out more or contact Rog, you can visit their website at: https://www.curiouscreatures.biz

If there are any topics you want me to cover, people you want me to talk to or questions you want answered please leave me a comment or connect with me on Insta!

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